I want your thoughts on this:
Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now?
(Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work)
Thanks.
Last edited by Morutea on Tue Oct 31, 2006 5:37 pm, edited 1 time in total.
Welcome to the boards! It's an odd first post but I think you have an obligation to help any of your family when and if you can as long as they are making an effort to help themselves (providing they are able). I refuse to help people that won't make an effort to help themsekves, regardless of who they are.
Honestly, I try to help anyone if I can as long as it's not costing me undue hardship. Sometimes, it's the little things you do for other people (whether they know it or not) that make you feel good.
I don't think I can answer this.......it really depends on the situation.......there are too many possibilities..........
In general I would say yes........Family is family.
FZ1 wrote:Sometimes, it's the little things you do for other people (whether they know it or not) that make you feel good.
Well if say they've fallen on hard times and they are trying to work their way out, yes. But, my cousin who just leeches off my aunt (who is a jerk to begine with, robbed my grandma blind before she [grandma] died) would get nothing from me. Everytime she wanted a new something for this business her boyfriend and her started (which went nowhere) something got "stolen" and my aunt replaced it. Further, she got nailed for insurance fraud and went to "India" for a year, exactly a year (hmm, read "prison")...
If they are trying to help themselves, then yes - If they want to sponge - then no
Mike
I always told my mom I had a big cardboard box i nthe backyard for her if she ever needed it - makes you want ot cry doesnt it - damn I am too nice...;)
Remember, I am opinionated and nothing I say or do reflects on anyone or anything else but me
In china (or one of those eastern countries) its a custom that once the children are out of college and have a job and on thier own, to give the parents "X" amount of money once a month for the rest of thier lives. My neighbors are doing that now, they write a $300-400 check to thiers parents in hong kong every month.
But yes, I strongly believe to support your parents, especially if they sent you to college. Maybe not the chinese custom way, but in some way!!!
Dragon_Cooler wrote:In china (or one of those eastern countries) its a custom that once the children are out of college and have a job and on thier own, to give the parents "X" amount of money once a month for the rest of thier lives. My neighbors are doing that now, they write a $300-400 check to thiers parents in hong kong every month.
But yes, I strongly believe to support your parents, especially if they sent you to college. Maybe not the chinese custom way, but in some way!!!
No matter what the circumstance, you always stand by your family. My mother sacrificed for me when I was young and I look back on those times and am grateful for her sacrifice. It would dishonor all that she has given up for me to not give back to her.
I cannot speak on behalf of your specific situation, because honestly, if you have to ask that question to us, then there may be deeper underlying issues that I have no business addressing in a public forum. Providing that we share the same circumstance, then provide that support with all your heart. Regret is very tough to overcome, especially the older you get.
